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Distance Not Real

Why he shout? Is he losing patience? Or this angry intended heard other else as lessons? Is not son close? Regular voice alone already sounded, no need to shout.

By: Mochamad Yusuf*

On once Saturday I went to Zidan’s school. Saturday was the school holidays. But since there are school activities, I have to deliver Zidan. School bus is off. Once at school, I saw many parents who bring their children.

The school was so hectic. There is a play, sit back, and there are eat at the stall of school. Suddenly my attention was broken by a loud noise. My view point to parents who scolded his son. Apparently the kids ‘strike’ for some reason.

I’m surprised, quite far but it sounded angry parents. Means that the parents yelling. But why is he yelling? Are the parents lose patience? Or so angry parents could hear other children as a lesson? Is not son close? Normal voice alone is heard. No need to shout.

Yes, why? But if we see people who are dating, they were even whispers. We’re on his side could not even listen to what they were saying. In fact, we often refer to those who fall in love it does not say a word. Just look at each other.

This is because the distance that can change hearts. When angry, as if their distance away, though physically close. To reach that distance, they have to shout. Shout louder, angrier and more distance between hearts. Therefore they have to yell even louder.

Whereas during courtship, their heart is not. Very close. Does not even need a word being spoken. The gaze is enough to make them understand what to say.

See it, I draw lessons. When we hit the anger, do not widen the distance of the heart. Moreover, added the words that could increase the distance of the heart again. Perhaps a time like this, do not even need to say the word. Silence may be more prudent. The time which would cool the anger. [TSA, 10/05/2010 at dawn]

*Mochamad Yusuf is an online analyst, public speaker, radio host, lecturer and IT practitioner at SAM Design. Actively writing and his books have been published, “99 Jurus Sukses Mengembangkan Bisnis Lewat Internet”. You can follow his activities on his website, or in his Facebook.

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